Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
Me: I am violently depressed.
Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!
Me: *signs up for yoga*
Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*
Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws
Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.
Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t
Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.
TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.
FUCKING THIS.
As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL
Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???
because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there. suicides actually increase when medicated. why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself. which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.
it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours. that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE
STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS
I would like to advise everyone to block and unfollow dapper-dice. I have been getting messages from several people informing me he has been harrassing them and making them feel all around uncomfortable. A lot of these people have asked to be kept anonymous for their own privacy.
He has been doing everything from pressuring people into sending him nude pictures.
To racial slurs.
To rape jokes
To all around pressuring people into doing things that generally make them uncomfortable.
tl;dr : DAPPER-DICE/SALLY-STAGE-PLAY HAS BEEN SEXUALLY HARASSING OTHER ROLEPLAYERS AND THROWING RACIAL SLURS AROUND.
Please spread the word and make it known we don’t tolerate this sort of behavior in our fandom.
Do not go to the liquor store on 90th and MacArthur, around 10-14 Black men will be standing out there with vans and they will try to snatch you up, the Arab dudes who own the liquor store are in on it do not go there during the night, if it wasn’t for my boyfriend being with me last night they would have got me #staywoke
SUPER IMPORTANT!!!!
PLEASE REBLOG THIS
Cuz I know a few of my followers out that way
Don’t go during the day either! My cousin and sister seen these vans in broad day light. They were scared shitless. They kept their distance, and no harm was done. I showed them this post a week later, they should’ve been warned sooner. PLEASE REBLOG THIS!
SIGNAL BOOST TO SAVE A LIFE.
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🗣 BOOST!!!!
I don’t live relatively near where this is happening, but still, this is important to spread.
I’m over here dying to have a wife and straight men are still making “marriage ruined my life” jokes. Like? Buddy? First of all that’s never been funny. Second, if you don’t want your wife I’ll take her
if ppl joke about marriage ruining whatever… bro, you shouldn’t have gotten married and your wife deserves more.
I find myself having to ask this question constantly but as a straight dude am I allowed to reblog this because I relate so hard
Absolutely! I wrote this from a lesbian perspective but I think it’s great that there’s straight guys who can relate. Cherishing your partner should be a universal thing
corporate marketing exec: so, what are the kids into these days, eating tide pods? frogs?
me, scrolling frantically through the data: ma’am, apparently it’s “loving and cherishing your life partner of any gender”
why do writers make a woman being infertile out to be the most tragic and horrific thing ever??? like adoption exists???? surrogates??? do they think mothers who adopt their children aren’t “real” mothers??? not all women want children anyhow???? a woman’s??? worth??? is not??? defined by??? her ability??? to??? bear??? children???
PRINT THIS EVERWHERE
also please note how awful this trope is for women who DO struggle with infertility; it’s often horrifically painful and heart-wrenching, and writers using it for cheap pathos is insensitive and cruel
I really hate doing this, it’s kind of embarrassing and makes me feel bad as a parent, but I’m really struggling right now. I’m having my son on Friday and I’ll be out of work for six weeks. My kids dad was laid off from a seasonal job in December and has been struggling to find work since. He recently found something but he won’t even start training until next week and his pay is biweekly so we are basically looking at living for a month with no source of income at all. I have a toddler and I will have a newborn and I just really feel stressed because we won’t have any money for diapers or gas or groceries in this four to six week period and I hate that I’m spending the week before my son arrives stressing so hard over money! My blood pressure is at some seriously unhealthy levels over it and I’m just really scared about how we are going to stay afloat. If anyone could spare any money at all or diapers or anything to help us out, it would be so so greatly appreciated. I hate asking for help this way but I don’t know what else to do!
canada is currently considering banning imidacloprid, which is apparently “one of the most widely used bee-killing pesticides in the world”. this seems pretty huge, so if you’ve got two seconds, add your name to the list! as of posting this link, they need just over 8,000 more signatures by february 21!
“straight people have never known what it’s like for their love to be illegal!” hey quick question have any of y’all ever heard of anti miscegenation laws in your life
the same month my dad turned five, his aunt was denied a marriage because she was brown and her fiancé was white. this was not that long ago! like, please do call out and talk about straight privilege. but as a queer person of color: i am begging y’all to do it w/o erasing the history of racism
Not even close! Christians are not called to hate ANYBODY. Proverbs 10:12 – Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs and 1 John 2:11But whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and walks in the darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.
Instead, rathermore, we are instructed to LOVE everybody.
Romans 12:10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves and
Ephesians 4:32
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
You see, Christians may not agree with homosexuality/LGBT, but that does NOT mean they hate them. As stated in the verses above, we are called to show EVERYBODY love and restrain from hatred, wrath, violence, etc.
There are many extremist Christians, however, who have made a bad name for the majority of Christians. Some are extremely violent and aggressive towards gays, persecuting them and just being overall jerks. Please keep in mind that is NOT the way a real Christian acts!!! I have discussed these things with three different local pastors of mine, and they all told me the same thing: We are to treat the LGBT community with love, respect and kindness, just as we do with any other human being on the planet.
So, to sum it up; Christians are NOT, I repeat, NOT supposed to hate LGBT members/supporters, and they are NOT supposed to hate anybody in general. They are supposed to love everyone, and share God’s joy and hope.
As a Christian, I hold these beliefs, yes. But, just as I mentioned above, I may not support LGBT, BUT that doesn’t mean I hate them. No no no! I have many LGBT friends, as I said, and I LOVE THEM SO MUCH. They are WONDERFUL!! I will love everyone just as God has loved me. And believe me, He loves EVERYBODY, no matter what your sexuality, gender, race, or whatever is. He loves you, and I do too!
Anon asking about my opinion on transgenders, it falls under this category.
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