God absolutely does not hate you. God doesn’t hate anyone. You could do everything in your power to conspire against Him, but that wouldn’t change how much He loves you. There’s not a single person who has ever or will ever exist that God wouldn’t love.
I’m not saying there’s nothing you need to change about yourself, or that there’s a balance between being gay and being a Christian (because I’m sorry, there is no balance, it’s one or the other, God doesn’t share His place in anyone’s heart with sin), but I’m saying God won’t stop loving you no matter what you do. He loves us so much that the sin that traps us breaks His heart. He hates sin because it separates us from Him, even if we don’t think it does. It’s not you He hates, He’s trying to save you from what He hates, from what’s threatening your faith and your soul. There is no good or okay sin, all sins hurt us, even if we like the sin we’ve fallen to.
Honestly? I mess up daily. I’ve failed God more times than I can count. But in spite of everything, all my shortcomings and every misstep, He’s never given up on me. Not once. God sees the darkest parts of our hearts and He loves us still. Even when we stumble and fall, He picks us up, dusts us off, and pursues us to the end. He’s making us into who we were always meant to be and that gives me so much hope.
Look, a romantic wishlist is a nice thought, but it’s also creepy and unfair. It’s setting up an impossible monstrosity of expectations and you’ll be disappointed for no other reason than you played yourself.
I don’t mean lowering your standards. I mean setting real ones, for actual people who exist. For people who are just people and not a customized Frankenstein creature.
The person you’ll end up with is going to be their own person with their own hopes, dreams, goals, anxieties, and weird little habits. They’re not a checklist trophy that will meet your every size or quota.
They’re going to be way different and in fact way more interesting than the stitched up hologram made from half-baked movie cliches and choir-preaching memes.
Relationships are about compromise. Not compromising yourself, no. But about two weird people making it work. It’s a wild mix of chemistry, compatibility, non-negotiables, history and trauma, highs and lows, disagreements and pushback and feedback, augmenting goals, and lifelong change.
“Get you a guy/girl who” only works if you see yourself as a main character-savior-hero and you see others as a secondary prop to fulfill your romantic comedy narrative. In that case, you have other issues and you can wait.
And waiting in the meantime is a really good time for growth, for self-discovery, and for becoming the kind of person you never knew you were looking for. Singleness, really, isn’t waiting. It’s being.
this site is so goddamn anti-recovery. i’ve been spending years trying to get better but everyone’s mindset of “if you spend every hour of every day wanting to kill yourself you’re valid uwu” was just making my health worse. everyone on this site would be doing much better if they would stop being so negative.
it’s as if you want to stay mentally ill. you would think that people so miserable would want their lives to improve. if you want to get any better, stop rejecting every bit of positivity you see and forcing your toxic mindset on others.
Starting again on July 1st is my favorite online artist event: Art Fight! If you have OCs, and enjoy making and receiving art involving OCs, then I highly suggest you check out the site and set up an account!
For those who aren’t familiar with Art Fight, here’s a brief overview:
Each year, participating artists are split into two teams.
The main goal is to find any artist from the team opposite yours, and ‘attack’ them by drawing art of their ocs! Your team receives points based on what you create.
Artists that receive attacks can then ‘counter’ by drawing an OC belonging to the person who fought them, or pay it forward by simply attacking anyone on the opposing team!
The official about page with more in depth information is located here! There’s also a video format for this information that can be watched here!
Art Fight is a great chance to interact with tons of different artists, get to know the amazing OCs that others have created, and have a lot of fun making art! The art you receive is also very exciting; you never know who may attack you! Keep in mind, it’s all in good fun and any skill level is welcome!!
The event lasts a month (July 1st – August 1st), and the team with the most points by the end wins!
My account can be found here, if anyone feels like attacking me! I hope to see you there!!
as a fellow socially anxious person, i think it’s important to let you all know that no one cares about your flaws as much as you do. no one is going to notice if your hair is a little flat, or that you’re eyebrows are a little uneven, or that there is a loose thread in the hem of your sweater. and, even if they do, no one is going to hate you for it, or think you’re gross, or stop being your friend because of it. hell, being around someone who isn’t perfect is nice because we can all take comfort in knowing that EVERYBODY has slightly off odds and ends. so don’t pay any mind to the little things that make you worry, no one is going to think less of you for them.
AngelMihe 