When black students have to evacuate campus because of yik yak threats AND white racists in pick up trucks circling black students and yelling white power + don’t be here tomorrow. And you ask professor to make up exam and he basically says fuck you. #ConcernedStudent1950 #mizzou
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For people who are or have been suicidal, does this or things like this help? I’m genuinely asking. I want to reblog something that actually helps, not just something I think helps.
This genuinely helps. I was suicidal for a large portion of my life, so my therapist asked me every time we spoke to tell her one thing i liked, or that made me happy. It could be anything at all. It could be something i’d already said. It didnt matter. That really helped me slowly.
She also made me say something positive for every negative. If i said something like ‘i just feel so stupid all the time,’ id have to say something i felt good about, like ‘i really like the colour red.’ I didnt think that my favourite colour would make such a difference, but really, when you slowly piece together a bunch of minuscule things, soon enough you have this list of 1000 things to live for.
So yes, reblog the shit out of this. Because this type of thinking saves my life every day.
I feel like we need some clarification
This is a Kimono (Japanese):
This is a Hanfu (Chinese):
This is a Cheongsam (Chinese):
This is a Hanbok (Korean):
Any questions?
ao dai
(vietnamese)THIS POST IS IMPORTANT.
It’s interesting to note that that the garments that have a cross over style when worn correctly are all worn with the left breast over the right.
That’s because right over left is used for corpses
My own awakening to the toxicity of the achievement race came the way it does to many parents: via years of trying to keep up with it.
I sensed the problem in my home before I could name it. My daughters, Shelby and Jamey, were in middle school, and Zakary was in third grade. They were still children, in the essential sense of the word. They still played hide-and-seek, treasured their American Girl dolls, and relied on me to make their meals. But their lives had mutated into an adult-like state of busyness that gave our home the air of a corporate command center.
Twelve-year-old Jamey, for instance—who still wore braces and fit into children’s clothing sizes—would wake up before seven, cram in some extra studying over breakfast, and rush off to her school day, which lasted the usual seven hours. She’d go straight from there to a violin lesson or soccer practice, return home at six, and commence a daily homework marathon that took her well into the night. I’d see her hunched at her desk past eleven p.m., washed in the yellow lamplight, her long brown hair spilling over her books.
We have our kids in an achievement race – it’s bad for their health, and not the way they learn
I survived an abusive relationship. At this point I have talked to and worked with hundreds of people in abusive relationships.
Guess what? telling us to leave never works.
ever.
I could write a post about ways to help people leave.
I’ll probably do that one day.
but don’t be that person in the mean time.
This is real quick off the cuff but:
AN ABBREVIATED GUIDE TO ‘holy shit my friend is in an abusive relationshit what do I do’
1. Don’t start shit with the abuser. Your friend? Will pay for it.
I once had a friend slap my abuser.
I am not going to tell you the price I paid b/c I’ve already puked once today and I would like to not do it again.
I once threatened a friend’s abuser.
I almost lost that friend over it.
Don’t do the thing.
2. Understand that the abuser is going to be isolating them.
They may be telling your friend how terrible you are. Any slight- no matter how small will be played up into a big thing. and even if the friend doesn’t hold it against you- it will probably effect how much they reach out to you.
Abusers like to tell their marks things like ‘Oh? A missed your call. Its because they hate you and think you complain too much’
The best way I can tell you to combat that- is just… don’t hold it against them. If they withdraw, don’t be that person like ‘well if you really cared about me you’d have fought for me’
The people who helped the most were those that I felt like.. I could go weeks without talking to and then they’d still listen if I got the courage to come back around.
If you can- work with them to try and schedule things so that they can have support without their abuser getting suspicious. School projects, open places. shit like that.
3. Don’t argue with them that shit is abusive.
Don’t be that person. It will make them feel unsafe with you.
The friends who argued were friends I lost. They were the ones it was easiest for him to make go. Cause here’s the thing… people view isolating as an abuser saying ‘you can’t talk to them!’ and a lot of times its not that.. its an abuser sitting down and saying in a real quiet voice ‘you two argue a lot, and they aren’t respecting you. But I’ll always be here for you okay?’
The most you can do is say “hey.. you know you deserve better than that right?” and if they argue go “I’m not going to argue with you. I don’t want to upset you.
4. If they ask for resources, help them get them.
Don’t offer them unless asked or it will turn into a fight and see above.
5. If they say they’re out of options- help them brain storm ones.
here’s an easy opening to ask if it’s okay to help them find resources.
don’t shove.
6. Be nice to them. consistently.
Too many people were too busy trying to convince me that he was a bad guy- that spending time with them just hurt…
and at least when I was with him it only hurt some of the time.
I got out because I had 4-5 good friends who I had good times with and I finally…. there was the light of ‘oh god this is what healthy relationships feel like. ’
7. Don’t shove. Don’t pressure.
You can say “I’ll be here for you when you’re ready to leave”
You can remind them of this occasionally.
But don’t be a coercive dick.
Don’t be gross.
Don’t hurt people being abused.
That should not be that hard of a lesson.
Don’t say victim blaming shit to convince them to leave.,
Don’t threaten to leave them if they don’t leave.
Don’t be gross.
positivity is cool and all but repressing negative feelings is toxic to yr mind and body. dont feel guilt for having an array of emotions. its corny to fake positivity when it isnt sincere, feeling stuff even bad stuff is nothing to be guilty over. its okay to feel bad sometimes
“people are so good at things how do i get talent :(”
Understanding How Depression Feels (via buzzfeed)
This is on point
Spot on
I feel I need to boost this to our community a bit more, if you think guardians are invincible, they are not. They have minds that are as fragile as the next, and at least understanding more than “They’re just sad all the time.” can make a big difference.
@ask-cayde-6 I must ask a favour, as you are followed by so many more than the rest of us, that you reblog this.
Rebloging for the boost and cause I had ( or maybe still have) depression and it’s really accurate. Go on people, it take some time but you will feel better someday!
Some Celebrities Know How To Be Good Parents
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