Tag: abuse
Stop dating abusive women 2018
Hardly any women are gonna reblog this tbh đ
A lot of women behave like this and think this ainât abuse
But let a nigga slap them, damage their clothes and pour a drink on them, all hell will break loose.
EVERYONE CAN BE A VICTIM OF DOMESTIC ABUSE!
Buddy has the soul of an angel and composure out of this world
Just in case anyone wants the context: He has been making music in Chicago, he recently performed to a large audience and met London on da track, who offered him an opportunity in LA. She didnât want to leave Chicago because of her business there. He told her that she doesnât have to go, he just needs to do this for his music. She got upset because he straight up told her that he valued his career over their relationship and she did this.Â
Now Iâm not a relationship expert, but I will never understand how some of yâall expect people to put you above the shit they have to do. Always put your career, your job, your livelihood first. This was all kinds of fucked up, really fucking abusive and manipulative, he should definitely go to LA with or without her.Â
Many women *WILL* reblog this, because part of feminism is acknowledging that women are just as capable of being abusive as men. Acting as though women cannot be abusive is misogyny, and relies on the misogynist tropes that women are frail, and innocent in comparison to men. Any true feminist must acknowledge that neither of these things are necessarily true and that a woman is in fact capable of being abusive whether itâs to another woman, a man, or a nonbinary person.
The reason we focus on abuse from men towards women is that it is more prevalent, and institutionally encouraged, justified, and allowed without consequence, while a woman even âtalking backâ to a man is to be âput in her place.â
Donât bring your weak, fragile âFew women will reblog thisâ shit up in here. We know what abuse looks like when we see it.
shoutout to the people who still have to interact with their abusers
shoutout to people who canât live without their abusers, either because of dependency issues or out of fear
shoutout to people who were abused by someone popular and therefore see their abuser in more places than they can handle sometimes
shoutout to people who were abused and have never come out as a victim out of fear
all of you, every single one of you, is very strong and deserves so much better. you deserve safety, love and a safe haven where you can recover from your abuse. you donât deserve any of this and it isnât your fault.
Abusive parents can say âI love youâ
Abusive parents can give their kids an allowance, gifts, toys and nice things sometimes.
Abusive parents can seem like parent of the year to outsiders.
Abusive parents can defend their children from outside threats and get them in all the best schools and programs and deal with school bullies.
Abusive parents are still abusive, regardless of the things they get right or the nice things they sometimes do.
whoever wrote this evidently had an idyllic, sheltered, childhoodâŚ
The person who wrote this had dishes thrown at them by the same person who said âI love youâ and tucked them into bed sometimes.
The person who wrote this would be severely punished and hit for being home even one minute late by the same person who threatened to call the cops on the two girls who bullied them relentlessly.
The person who wrote this was told over an over again by everyone that their mother was âincredibleâ and âawesomeâ by every one of their friends growing up despite being denied food to eat.
The person who wrote this got presents on their birthday and on holidays and had an allowance and was threatened with have everything they owned destroyed or have their pets killed on a regular basis by a parent.
The person who wrote this was called âstupidâ, âretardedâ, and âa useless idiotâ every time they couldnât understand something by the same person who said they were âvery smartâ and âhad potentialâ.
The person who wrote this did not have an idyllic, sheltered childhood and spent years questioning if having dishes thrown at their head was actually abusive because that same person said âI love youâ.
The person who wrote this is pretty pissed off that you would tell an abuse survivor that they had an idyllic childhood and assume there was no abuse just because the abuser was really good at making them question whether they were really abused or not, or that somehow saying âI love youâ made the abuse go away.
The person who wrote this literally has a personality disorder as a direct result of their parent who sometimes said I love you and got their bullyâs in middle school dealt with abusing them.
But youâre right. How dare I point out that this is something ACTUAL abusers have ACTUALLY done.
Abusers are more often than not, âstellar members of the communityâ.
Thatâs how they get away with it.
For the guys who need it.
AngelMihe 